Guides

Short, practical, and about the decisions rather than the buttons. If a guide here only helps you operate the app, it should not exist. The last one is for people who are already married, because the introduction was never meant to be the end of it.

• How to answer the intake questions

  Eight minutes of questions that decide who you meet. What each one is really asking, and why a flattering answer costs you the thing you came for.

• The first date, when marriage is the point

  What to arrange, what to ask, and the two questions worth getting to before you decide about a second one.

• Talking about timelines without frightening anyone

  Both of you already declared one. Here is how to have the conversation that follows from that, early, without it becoming an interview.

• What is a matrimony app?

  What the category actually is, how it differs from a dating app, which platforms are largest — and how to work out which of the three arrangements you want before you are inside one.

• How to date your spouse

  For two people already married to each other. Date ideas and real conversation prompts, and why the protected hour matters more than the evening.